Getting connected
Connection has been a thing I never really felt when I was around people. It was rare when it happened. Being around a genuine soul, you naturally shared your depths with. This type of connection was usually something I would only find when I would consolidate with the trees or be with my horses. It was real. It was my roots. It was where home was. Where loneliness didn’t exist, as I was one with the environment that didn’t mask its being away from the network.
Connection is only gained when we confront what is real and right in front of us. We don’t experience it when we pretend, mask, or hide ourselves away with what we feel and how we feel.
It’s the key to life. It’s the key to experiences. It’s the key to alleviating human suffering. It’s the key to our body account. It’s the key to our cleansing, forgiveness, and expansion, and yet, even though it’s wonderful, it’s the thing we fear the most.
We may think that going to the bar on a Saturday evening and hanging out with the gang, having drinks and good laughs, is the way to connect. Yet, in many of these laughing people’s hearts, there is an emptiness. A sense of feeling lonely and isolated from everything and everyone. Why? Because they are pretending to be someone they are not among other people to fit in. They are not doing it because they are real, but because they want and seek validation from a place of herd animal mentality. Humans are animals, but we are animals with individuality and a need to express who we are and feel seen for that. Regular animals know who they are and only seek the herd because of survival, and so do we. Nevertheless, the longing persists, the longing for what is real and true, but is the bravery there to meet it?
We live in a time where we are trying to connect to our roots through fancy inventions and technology. It’s pretty much a hit or miss game, where we hope to hit as many targets as possible, but the way we are doing it is pretty much like having our heads stuck up a Giraffe’s bum with no clue about what we are doing.
We don’t acknowledge that this planet has laws. That our biology has laws. We don’t follow them. We are living from a place that is subconscious, meaning it’s like a blind person trying to navigate a mall without a cane or a guide dog.
We live from a place that is blind to why it does what it does. It’s unaware, insecure, and fearful. Dark and scary. A place we shaped and formed while we grew up, and it wasn’t a nice place. We will take decisions and live from a place that is rooted in lack and not feeling like we are enough. Regardless of how much success and money we have, this sense of unawareness and blind emptiness will not be filled unless we experience and understand true connection. First and foremost, the connection to ourselves. This happens through confronting the loneliness and emptiness we feel, and from that place, we experience what we have missed. At first, it might just be friends, then a partner, then a family and children. These connections are fulfilling to have, depending on who you are, but is it truly the thing you were looking for?
Belonging
Did you get the belief as a child that you weren’t loved by your mom and dad, and all you have ever wanted was just to feel loved by them? That they believed in you? That they saw you? That they understood you? Later in life, other people will be chosen by our subconscious to repeat the type of attention our parents gave us. It’s our conditioning for belonging. It ends up in a stuck loop, where we won’t feel seen the way we expected and desired from our parents, until we wake up from the subconscious dream and realize what we truly desire and want.
Maybe you want the house, the family, the dog, the career, the friends, but what if they are not there? What if you don’t know what you want, and all you feel is hopelessness and emptiness again because you feel like you should feel something? Guess what, you do feel, but you have also lived in a state that has numbed you from what you really wanted in life, and it’s about connecting and learning to feel again. Sense and trust – natural abilities we made ourselves doubt and numb out because it was scary to experience, even though it’s the key to life.
Connection starts with the honest vulnerability of where we stand and where we are in life. Then, most likely, when we realize that place, we will overthink, overanalyze, worry, and compare ourselves to others who have nothing to do with our life, and then we will again disconnect and not connect to what our life has in store for us. Regardless of whether we are 16,22,35,44,55,66 or 77. It’s about connecting and feeling what is available to us, and what is real and truthful, and if people are not around to share this experience with, nature is. Even though you live in a park made up of bricks and concrete, you can still ground, feel, breathe, and sense where you are. Getting into what is physical will connect us back to what it means to feel alive.
Healing binural beats, brown/white/pink noise, healing and calming music with 528 Hz can help us to get to that place of connection. But then we might get the urge to disturb and disconnect again. We want to look at our phone. Activate the addictions that put us back into a loop of emptiness and numbness. That dopamine-high where our neurotransmitters get all messed up again. When we finally are on the way to connect again, we want to disconnect again, because we are addicts in a world that wants to get sober, but it’s afraid of love more than anything. Anyhow, it’s possible to connect if vulnerability is allowed to the surface. If the release of truth is allowed to the surface. That is how we heal as a human, as a collective, as a soul.
The power of attunement
Connection can take us way deeper than what we can rationalize. The precursor for connection is attunement. A device in us that can tune into emotion, the world of others, and the energy around us. It’s a highly underrated tool that can take us to worlds behind worlds. Want to hear more about it? Then watch my video here.
I also made a shirt here about how powerful weakness actually is, because it’s the only thing that will get us back to the network. Even isolated neurons reach out when they’re isolated away from others, in hopes of finding a partner that can connect them back to the network. Vulnerability is not a weak thing. Not a thing only women do. It’s a thing all humans need and require to connect, function, and become healthy again.
